Year end review

(1). Discovery

How : During a routine examination her doctor noticed it had been 10 years since her last mammogram. When he discovered this she insisted that my wife make arrangments for the procedure immediately.

When : Two days after the initial exam, they had her mammagram set up to do, it was during this procedure that they encountered the mass. The Doctor from the Breast Center suggested a biopsy of the mass A.S.A.P.

What : Upon doing the biopsy of the tissue from the mss she was informed that she did indeed have cancerous cells and they were in a very aggressive state.

(2). Treatment
Once the initial discovery had been made, the process of deciding how best to treat was the next step. Further tests were made and measurements taken to best guide the surgeon's decision between a full mastectomy or a lumpectomy procedure. it was decided that the best alternative was a lumpectomy followed by a chemotherapy regimen and finally 33 radiation treatments.

Choices : During this time the consideration of the full mastectomy with less chemotherapy and radiation, versus the lumpectomy and a more intense regimen of chemo/radiation.

Decisions : The biggest decision she faced at this point was to decide between mastectomy or lumpectomy. The mastectomy has a higher rate of success and less recurrence, but is also a much larger removal of tissue. Due to the small percentage increase my wife chose the lumpectomy. her thought being if she should have a recurrence that she would then have the mastectomy.

Outcome : The surgery went well and had no complications. She was able to come home just a few hours after the surgery. Roughly 72 hours after her surgery her surgeon called and informed her that he needed to go back into the original site and remove another 1.4 centimeters of tissue. There had evidently been some mistake in calculating how far to go with the actual removal of tissue. I did question this occurrence but it seems that it is common for this to happen since there is no real way of knowing how far the cancer cells have spread without actually going into the area and taking samples of cell growth.
Now with the scheduled surgery behind her, her only real complaint was that the area was a lot more sensitive and painful the second time through
(3). Now & Then

Changes : There have been several changes that had to be made during and after this whole process. In fact almost everything that my wife did had to have new ways of doing them. some of these changes have proved to be major permanent improvements, while some other have only been temporary fixes for temporary discomforts.
Permanent
Temporary

(4). Family +/-
Family members had some very wide ranging emotions and actions once they had been informed, some that were less knowledgeable about the events, even seemed totally oblivious to the fact.

Reactions : Reactions from family members ranged from indifference to caring to fear. One particular family member that was also one of my wifes part time employers Laid her off the day after she was diagnosed because she says” I can’t have you dying in my shop”. In the same week another family member, not only had shown her great support and caring but also, offered the two of us various alternative sources of income performing services that she required help with anyway.

(5). Strangers +/-
Many total strangers would react to my wife with a great caring and compassion , while others would totally avoid her to the point of not even looking her way. Once her hair was gone we had two very odd and yet sad encounters, with drug seekers asking her in the street to sell them pain medications. The first of these occurrences came while we were outside doing some yard work and cleaning up when a old red chevy chevette approached and stopped beside the two of us and proceeded to explain that they knew her doctors had given her some “GOOD” pain drugs and was actually begging and pleading with her to sell her meds. At this point I just told the man to leave while he still could leave, he yelled a few obscenities and left, needless to say I still watch for this vehicle and the bunch of junkies that was in it.